Vaginal dilators: a gentle guide for women

What vaginal dilators are (and aren’t)

Vaginal dilators are smooth, cylindrical tools available in graduated sizes, typically made from body-safe silicone or medical-grade plastic. Unlike Kegel weights, which are used to engage muscles, dilators are usually part of a relaxation-focused routine—gently encouraging tissues to accommodate sensation with ease.

Choosing a set

Look for body-safe materials, a comfortable texture, and a range of sizes. Many sets include a progression from small to larger sizes so you can move at your own pace. Consider a storage pouch and a water-based lubricant.

How to use thoughtfully

Set the scene: Privacy, warmth, unhurried time.
Prepare: Wash hands, clean the dilator, apply water-based lubricant to you and the tool.
Position: Side-lying with knees bent, semi-reclined, or any supported posture that feels safe.
Introduce gently: Rest the tip at the entrance, breathe, and—only when comfortable—invite a slow, shallow insertion. Pause often.
Breathe & soften: Focus on long exhales and the sensation of release. If you feel resistance, stop and wait for the tissues to soften.
Time: Short sessions are fine (even 3–5 minutes). You can gradually build as comfort allows.
Aftercare: Wash with mild soap and warm water, dry fully, and store clean.

Listening to your body

You are in charge of pace and depth. Discomfort, burning, or pain are signals to stop and reassess. If concerns persist, consult a qualified healthcare professional for individualized guidance.

Pairing with other practices

Many women combine relaxation work with gentle movement, breath practices, and—when helpful—Kegel exercises on different days for a balanced approach.

Disclaimer: This article is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Discuss dilator use and sizing with a qualified healthcare professional. Bodyotics products are wellness-focused and are not medical devices.